Understanding the Attributes of God During Times of Grief

Everyone views God in a different light. For some, God the Father provides the most comfort and guidance with His all-knowing wisdom and never-ending power. For others, Jesus Christ and His deep compassion and connection to humanity make Him most approachable. And even still there are those who prefer speaking with the calm and gentle voice of the Holy Spirit. The Catholic faith is beautiful in that, while we only worship one true God, there are these three Persons we can interact with, and each may speak to us in different ways. These three parts all have unique attributes and it’s from these attributes of God that we can derive comfort, support and guidance. Keep reading to learn more about how understanding God’s attributes can help you progress along your grief journey.

Understanding the Attributes of God during times of Grief

God is Omnipresent and Omniscient

While grieving, it’s common to feel isolated and alone. Grief is particular and specific to the individual, which makes the pain hard to talk about with others. Despite how alone you may feel at times, remember that God is always with you. He is all-present and all-knowing. He knows the thoughts, sorrows, and desires of your heart intimately. When you feel most alone, take heart in knowing the Heavenly Father knows exactly how you feel, and will never leave you or forsake you.

You will seek me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. – Jeremiah 29:13

God is Kind

Losing a loved one can feel like a betrayal. God places family and friends in our lives and then takes them away just as easily. It’s easy to become upset and angry with God but, as scripture proves to us, God is not of ill-intent. He treats all of His children with kindness and everything He does is within our best interests. Remembering this in times of great hardship is key to discovering blessings within the depths of deep despair. God does nothing to cause us pain. Rather, He places challenges in our lives to make us stronger and help us grow closer to Him.

The LORD is compassionate and gracious, Slow to anger and abounding in loving kindness. – Psalm 103:8  

God is Merciful

Part of the struggle of grieving is not knowing the fate of loved ones. There’s no way we can know exactly what follows death. While scripture and Catholic teaching can give us some idea, this uncertainty can augment our grief even more. While this may be frustrating, one thing we know for certain is that God is merciful. He brings each and every one of us into this world and He is there to guide us into His heavenly kingdom. He owes us nothing, but through His never-ending mercy we are all saved. Recognize that, no matter how spiritual or devoted your loved one was or wasn’t, they are resting in God’s eternal and merciful care.

He saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy. He saved us through the washing and rebirth and renewal of the Holy Spirit. – Titus 3:5  

God is Loving

The people we hold closest to us are often the same ones who provide us with the most love and support in our life.  Therefore, when a loved one passes from this world, it’s common to feel an absence of love and comfort in your life. While it may be true that earthly love may diminish, heavenly love is eternal. The love you share with your departed family members and friends is never-ending. Even through death, you can share that special connection with them. Even more so, God holds unique and passionate love with each and every one of us. His love is unlike anything else in this world. In times when you feel most lonely, remember that God loves you always.

His love and faithfulness will last forever. – Psalm 100:5

God is perfect

Death does not discriminate. It does not follow any rules. It often isn’t fair and comes at inopportune times. Death is a confusing and unpredictable occurrence here on Earth, which makes it not only scary, but extremely frustrating and disheartening. While we may never fully understand death, we do understand that God and His plan are perfect. We will never be able to predict death or comprehend when or why it happens. We’re not supposed to. Instead, we should be focused on trusting in God’s plan for us. Calling to mind the traits He possesses—being all present, kind, merciful, loving, and perfect —it’s clear His plan is what’s best for us and our eternal salvation.

The Rock! His work is perfect, For all His ways are just; A God of faithfulness and without justice, Righteous and upright is He. – Deuteronomy 32:4

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Post written by Katie Karpinski

Meaningful Music: OVERCOMER by Mandisa

Sometimes life can just be overwhelming. While God constantly graces us with blessings, He also exposes us to challenges and times of struggle to help us grow and develop as faithful followers. We know that God does everything in our best interest but everyone can use a little extra support and encouragement when these hard times come our way. Mandisa, an award-winning Christian artist, provides such comfort through her music. Her song “Overcomer” has been on the top of Christian charts for over five years and it’s no question why! Her words of encouragement and truth for those undergoing hardship is enough to lighten anyone’s mood.

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The song’s verses speak to the universal feeling of being worn down and distraught by the challenges God places in our path:

Everybody’s been down

Hit the bottom, hit the ground

However, Mandisa reminds us that we are not called to overcome these challenges alone. God has promised each of us His help and intervention. He will never put us in a situation that we cannot handle:

Ooh, you’re not alone

Just take a breath, don’t forget

Hang on to his promises

He wants you to know

Whatever it is you may be going through

I know he’s not gonna let it get the best of you

Knowing that God is constantly on our side, our struggles, conflicts, and problems seem to shrink. God is gracious enough to give us the strength, power, and courage we need to accomplish anything. Mandisa sings of this power as she dubs us all “Overcomers”:

You’re an overcomer

Stay in the fight ’til the final round

You’re not going under

‘Cause God is holding you right now

You might be down for a moment

Feeling like it’s hopeless

That’s when he reminds you

That you’re an overcomer

You’re an overcomer

Next time you find yourself in a situation beyond your control, take a moment and re-center your focus on Christ. With His help you can do anything!

Listen to the full song here:

Want to hear more from Mandisa? Make sure to attend the FEST (a free and family-friendly event!) on August 5, 2018 to see Mandisa live! And don’t forget while you’re there to visit the Catholic Cemeteries Association booth to receive a free snow cone and complimentary family photo!

Post written by Katie Karpinski

Stella Walsh: A Local Olympian

Olympic athletes have always been celebrities in their own rite. Even in the recent Winter Olympics, it appeared that the whole world was captivated with the select group of individuals chosen to compete and represent their country. Seeing people who are so dedicated to their country and to their sport is enough to inspire anyone to pursue their passion and make a greater impact on their community. Stanisława Walasiewicz (more commonly known as Stella Walsh) was one such athlete. However, her story goes beyond her involvement in Olympic events. Keep reading to learn more about this remarkable woman.

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Stella Walsh during track and field competition

Born on April 3, 1911 in Poland, Stella only lived in the country for a few months before her parents immigrated to the United States. Eventually, the family settled in Cleveland where Stella’s father found work at a local steel mill. Enrolled in Cleveland public schools, it didn’t take long for Stella’s athletic ability to be noticed. At the young age of 16 she qualified for the American Olympic track team. But there was a problem. Being born in Poland, Stella was not an American citizen and was not yet old enough to apply for citizenship. But this didn’t stop Stella from pursuing her passions. Instead, she decided to join a local Polish sports organization. Through this organization, Stella was able to compete and would win several titles in 60, 100, 200, and 400 meter dash events. Stella was so spectacular that she was even asked to join the Polish national athletic team.

Throughout her teenage years, Stella continued to participate in Polish and American sporting events, all while working as a clerk in Cleveland. She won several international and local titles in track events. One of these competitions even won Stella a car! In 1930 at the young age of 19, Stella had gained both local and international fame which resulted in her being offered American and Polish citizenships. She accepted her Polish citizenship and was named the most popular athlete in Poland that same year.  While this already seems rather noteworthy, the pinnacle of Stella’s fame would come to fruition in the years following her Polish citizenship.

In 1932 Los Angeles, California was hosting the Summer Olympics. Stella was selected to participate, representing Poland. After competing in several events, Stella made history when she won the gold medal in the 100 meter dash, having completed the sprint in 11.9 seconds which equaled the current world record at the time. This Olympic win even heightened her celebrity more– so much so that Poland awarded her the Cross of Merit (typically given for humanitarian or public achievements). Over the next 4 years, Stella would maintain her title as most popular athlete in Poland.

As time came for the 1936 Olympics in Berlin, Stella began to in wane in popularity. She would compete again in the 100 meter dash, this time taking home the silver medal after losing the gold to American track athlete, Helen Stephens. After this loss, Stella decided to accept her American citizenship and remained in Cleveland permanently.  She would continue to compete in events throughout the country, and won her last title at the age of forty. In 1975 she was inducted in the Track and Field Hall of Fame.

Throughout her retirement, Stella stayed active in athletics and her Polish culture. She was heavily involved in several athletic organizations, particularly those aimed at younger athletes, and helped fund awards for Polish-American citizens. Stella would contribute to these organizations up until her untimely death.

On December 4, 1980 Stella was in a Cleveland parking lot, having just purchased ribbons for a visiting Polish team. She was a victim of an armed robbery and sadly did not survive.  Stella’s death, and subsequent autopsy, resulted in various rumors and controversy about Stella’s true gender. While this is a topic still discussed today, no one can argue Stella’s unique athletic talent and contribution to both Polish and American track history.

Stella is buried at Calvary Cemetery in Cleveland (Sec. 95 Lot. 2003)

Post written by Katie Karpinski

A Self-Care Guide for the Bereaved

When a death occurs, priorities shift. It’s easy to become overwhelmed with your emotions and the impeding tasks that follow the loss of a loved one. During this painful time, taking care of yourself may be the last thing on your mind. You may feel as if there are too many things to do, too many people to care for, and too little time to complete it all. Even after the initial flurry of activities following the death of your loved one, and into the subsequent years, you may still feel the heaviness and weight of grief albeit less frequently but just as draining upon your emotional and physical self. However, taking care of yourself during a time of grief is critical to truly healing and overcoming the obstacles associated with losing a loved one. Keep reading to learn about 3 steps you can take toward better self-care today.

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1. Take care of your body

The body and mind are very closely related. This is why, while grief may traditionally be known as an emotional pain, there is also an element of physical pain or unbalance that is experienced following the death of a loved one. Therefore, taking steps to improve your physical health can be beneficial not only for general wellness, but also in terms of working through your grief. Getting a full night’s sleep, eating healthy foods, and moderate exercise are all great steps toward physical wellness. In some cases, a visit to your doctor for a checkup may be good idea. It all depends on you and your body’s unique reaction to grief.

2. Be kind to yourself

While grieving, it’s important to treat yourself like your own best friend. It’s so easy to get caught up in everything that needs to be done, and you may even blame yourself if things aren’t being completed on time or don’t go as planned. Instead of discouraging yourself, remember that you are only human. Take some time to do things you enjoy. Give yourself breaks and learn to say no to events or obligations you simply don’t have time for. Learn how to pamper yourself, and find something to do that makes you happy. Maybe it’s reading a good book or watching your favorite movie. Perhaps taking a nice bath with aroma therapy soaps or mediation can help. Whatever the case may be, find what works for you. It’s important to mention that many people turn to being busy as a way to cope with their grief. However, all that does is push your grief to the side and distract you from the pain you need to work through. By taking breaks and avoiding the “busy trap”, you can actually learn to work through your grief instead of ignoring it, all while practicing better self-care along the way!

3. Reflect and connect

While slightly contradictory, one of the best ways to practice self-care involves turning your attention to others. First, while it may be tempting to push the painful feelings of loss to the side and try to go about a normal day, it’s important that you accept these feelings associated with loss. Reflecting on the life of your loved one is a great thing that can bring about healing and acceptance. Some common reflection exercises include writing down ten things you miss about them, or your favorite memories with them. Maybe it’s simply talking about your loved one with others, or creating some type of memorial for them. Whatever the case may be, allow yourself to enter into whatever it is you may be feeling. Finally, use this opportunity to connect with others, and to connect with Christ. Grief is not a journey that needs to be done alone. Reaching out to a trusted friend, family-member, church leader, or local support group are great ways to reconnect and provide yourself with a support system to assist you through your grief journey. Of course, constant prayer and communication with God is the best way to take care of yourself and your grief. God is a source of never-ending and never-failing love. He alone can truly heal you.

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Post written by Katie Karpinski

 

One Nation Under God: Reflections on the 4th of July

The 4th of July, also known as Independence Day in the U.S. is arguably the most important day in this great country’s history. On this day we celebrate with fireworks, barbeques, parades, friends and family. We honor the bravest men and women who fought for our freedom over 240 years ago and those who are fighting to protect our freedom today. On the 4th of July one can’t help but enjoy the sound of rhythmic music, children playing, and the thunderous fireworks which light up the sky with contours and colors that compel us to stop what we are doing and be thankful for what we have.

While we stop to embrace everything we are thankful for it is ever so important that we also turn to the One who is most responsible for our freedom. God Almighty has granted us with true blessings of freedom both in heaven and on earth. In fact, John Adams, the primary author of the Declaration of Independence praises the Most High when he so elegantly wrote, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

John Adam’s faith in The Lord was made extremely evident here. He was one of the first of many to turn to God with thanks and praise when the newfound relief of freedom settled in over our great country. Celebrating 242 years of freedom by the signing of the Declaration of Independence, we remember and praise those who have bestowed this great amenity to our united nation. Lastly, thank you to all of our veterans and current servicemen and thanks be to The Lord! Let freedom ring!

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Prayer for America

Dear God, we thank you for the bountiful blessings you have bestowed on us. Guide us in being good stewards of these gifts. Let us care for all of your beautiful creation, from the redwood forests to the gulfstream waters. Make us instruments of your peace in order to put an end to rockets’ red glare and bombs bursting in air. Help us to love and care for all of our neighbors -locally and globally- so that we might be truly crowned with brotherhood from sea to shining sea. Amen.

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