After the death of a loved one, life can seem so overwhelming. We may want to scream, “Why is everyone acting as if nothing happened? I am experiencing the greatest pain of my life! My world has been turned upside down!” We then realize that life does go on and we must continue to function. We are tired, we can’t sleep, we have no appetite, or we are forgetful. We may be angry, impatient and may burst into tears at the drop of a hat. We then ask ourselves, “How am I going to get through this? I don’t think I am strong enough.”
Do you remember when you were younger and you could not reach something? You would ask your mom or dad for help. Even now when I can’t open that pickle jar, I have to ask my husband for help. As we all know, it is easy to get lost in an unfamiliar area and eventually we have to ask for directions. In order for many of us to get through our grief, we have to ask for help. It is very difficult to get through this journey alone.
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
Through the assistance from loved ones, friends, support groups and other bereavement services, you can gain the strength necessary to work through your grief. Our Lord is our greatest source of that strength. The Lord is waiting with open arms to comfort you and sit with you.
The next time you feel overwhelmed, afraid, lonely or sad, find a quiet place in your home or yard; close your eyes and take a deep breath. Ask that the Lord come sit with you or walk with you and pour out your concerns and troubles to Him. Imagine the Lord with his arms around you, holding you or maybe evening carrying you. He wants nothing more than to do that for you during this difficult time.
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1
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