We have all experienced those moments that “take our breath away” Some people find those moments in nature, a beautiful sunrise or sunset, the first blooms of spring, the magnificent colors of autumn, the pristine blanket of the first snowfall. For others it’s in people, the moment you say “I do”, seeing your child walk for the first time, seeing a family member that has been away for a long time. Still others experience these moments with God, in a prayer answered or a special blessing. These short snippets of time are etched in our minds forever, we continue to find joy in just remembering them. No one can take those memories away.
On our grief journey, we will experience these “take your breath away” moments. Unfortunately, these moments may not evoke the joy and comfort of our other experiences. How many of us have picked up the phone to share something special or funny with our deceased loved one, and realize that they are not there? Or we hear the knock on the door and for a brief moment we think they have come to visit. We have to catch our breath when reality sets in. These are painful, sad moments, but they will not last forever! With the assistance of the Holy Spirit and support from our loved ones we will get through these difficult times.
As the Bereavement Coordinator, I have learned so many creative ways to cope with this sadness:
- Give yourself time to grieve.
- Visit the cemetery, look at photos; remember your loved one.
- Journaling: jot down your feelings, your sadness, and your progress.
- Be with God and allow him to comfort you.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
Nancy Romaine, Bereavement Coordinator, Catholic Cemeteries Association